About Us

about_us.jpg"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it" -- Maya Angelou


Welcome to our website. This is a place of information, support and healing for everyone affected by pregnancy and infant loss.

Here, the baby’s parents, their family and friends, doctors and other professionals will find up to date information and other resources. Feel free to submit any question to receive a quick, helpful reply.

Of utmost importance is our RED ALERT section -- with information that saves babies' lives.

Our panel consists of parents who have lost one or more babies. We understand the issues surrounding pregnancy and infant loss perhaps better than anyone else does, because we have 'been there'. Advice is also provided on this website by highly respected professionals.

This website has only three objectives:
1. To inspire further research, so that more babies might survive;
2. To support the millions affected by pregnancy and infant loss every year; and
3. To help ‘break the silence’, by promoting awareness and education.

This website is not affiliated with any special interest group or other organisation.
We will not engage in any controversy, and we neither condone nor publish hate mail. Any hate email will be blocked from this website.

At pilari.org we also celebrate victories. For example, Oct. 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, as recognized in North America. Being able to honour one’s loss is key to being able to move more quickly through our grief. We also post petitions, hoping to bring about more positive change. Our current petition is to have Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day recognized in Australia next.

1 out of every 3 pregnancies ends in loss. Each year, in the developed world alone:

  • An estimated 500,000 miscarriages occur: most from unexplained causes;
  • 1 in every 148 babies is stillborn, with 73% unexplained;
  • 1% of all reported abortions are conducted strictly due to severe foetal abnormalities; and
  • 3 in every 1000 babies dies shortly after his or her birth

In underdeveloped countries, the statistics must surely and tragically be worse.

All together, this is a staggering amount of grief -- usually suffered in silence and great misunderstanding. In the vast majority of cases, nothing could have been done to avoid the loss. And yet, in many other cases, the losses were actually medically preventable.

Through raising awareness, empowerment, support and education, this website aims to both help reduce these fatalities, and help tear down the walls of silence.